Thriving as a Neurodivergent Queer Adult: Daily Life, Healing, and Self-Acceptance
Living as a neurodivergent queer adult comes with its own set of challenges—and its own opportunities for creativity, resilience, and joy. In Part Two of our LGBTQ+ Neurodiversity Q&A, host Renae Johnson (they/them) sits down with Mikey Whited (they/them, Psych NP) to explore the practical and emotional aspects of thriving, from managing daily tasks to embracing identity with compassion.
Managing Daily Life
For many neurodivergent adults, executive dysfunction can make even “basic tasks” feel impossible. Mikey and Renae discuss realistic strategies for tackling daily responsibilities without burning out, and ways to advocate for yourself at school or work without fear of stigma or discrimination. They also touch on recognizing the early signs of burnout and how to create recovery routines that actually work.
Ask yourself:
Which daily tasks feel overwhelming, and what small adjustments could make them manageable?
How can I set boundaries or ask for accommodations without feeling guilty?
What signs of burnout do I notice in myself, and how do I usually respond?
Creating Supportive Environments
A sensory-friendly home environment isn’t just nice—it’s essential for neurodivergent mental health. The episode highlights practical ways to adjust your space and routines to reduce overwhelm and support emotional regulation. These strategies are not about perfection—they’re about building environments that help you feel safe, grounded, and capable.
Ask yourself:
Which aspects of my environment drain or overwhelm me?
What small changes could create a more supportive sensory space?
Healing, Identity, and Self-Acceptance
Beyond daily functioning, thriving requires navigating the deeper work of identity and self-acceptance. Mikey and Renae explore the difference between masking to stay safe and masking that harms your mental health. They share ways to unlearn internalized ableism and shame, and discuss how to support loved ones who may be struggling to accept their neurodivergent identity.
Ask yourself:
In what areas of my life am I masking, and why?
How do I show compassion to myself when I feel different or misunderstood?
How can I support others in embracing their neurodivergence without judgment?
Thriving Beyond Surviving
Ultimately, thriving as a neurodivergent person means more than coping—it’s about celebrating your strengths, finding joy in your unique perspective, and building authentic connections. For queer neurodivergent adults, this often involves balancing self-care with community support, recognizing both the challenges and the creativity that come from living outside societal norms.
Ask yourself:
What does thriving look like for me personally?
Which practices, habits, or communities help me feel most alive, seen, and supported?
If you’re looking for more guidance on building a life that feels sustainable and affirming, you can explore our neurodiversity counseling page.
Living as a neurodivergent queer adult is a lifelong journey of learning, adapting, and unmasking. By reflecting on daily life, creating supportive spaces, and embracing self-acceptance, you can move from surviving to thriving—celebrating both the challenges and the brilliance of your neurodivergent identity.